Wednesday, January 14, 2009

new theme song today

today I'm mad so I get a mad theme song. My ex-hole pulled a dirty one on me. in our divorce decree I'm the custodial parent and we have joint custody so he gets the kids 135 days of the year. He gets to have them every other weekend and one day of the week. He often complains when I ask him to pick the kids up from daycare because I have to work late because he has a date or it's his night to go play with his brother. well, the other night he calls me and drops a bomb on me. He tells me he now wants the kids 180 days a years regardless what the divorce decree says. He wants them half the year. 4 days out of the week and if I say no he will star a custody battle. Well that doesn't give me much choice it? I told him no. he says I'm denying his rights as a father. i said he signed legal documents stating that he agreed to the 135 days of the year and they were now signed by a judge. It can't be changed. He now wants to re wright the papers. I don't think that can be done with out a court battle , so he basically said " bring it on". I'm looking for a good custody lawyer. I'm worried about my kids and what all of this will do to them. He doesn't seem to put that into his equation. not really sure how to help them. I love than so much. I cried a lot that night. I don't know what happened to the man I used to be married to. He has changed from the gentle giant to a hulking beast. It makes me sad.

1 comment:

Sparverius said...

Makes me sad too. I wish there was some magic way to have what started as a friendly divorce continue that way at least until the kids are old enough to choose who they spend time with. By that time they will recognize beasts when they see one.